Sexual Satisfaction

• Are people sexually satisfied?
• What are the drivers of Satisfaction?
• What does all this mean?
• How do i get more satisfaction?
• Summary

We reveal how satisfied (or dissatisfied) we are with our sex lives. We help pinpoint the drivers of satisfaction, the problems people are experiencing and identify ways in which our sex lives can be enhanced.

By analysing and comparing national and global trends we have gathered important information on satisfaction and sexual health.

So, are people sexually satisfied?

Sex worldwide could be better. Apparently, we have lost our sense of adventure, our libidos and our interest.

60% of us say that sex is fun, enjoyable, and a vital part of life. However, only 44% of people are fully satisfied with their sex lives.

We've established that we become less satisfied with our sex lives as we get older, more so for men than women. This is partly because we tend to have sex less often and we have been in relationships for longer.

We tend to find things less exciting and more monotonous. Interestingly, having children doesn't negatively impact upon satisfaction.

Physical Drivers

• Free from stress and good mental and physical health
• The ability to achieve orgasm
• Free from sexual dysfunction
• Frequency of sex and foreplay

In general, we need to be free from stress and be in good mental and physical health.

Achieving orgasm is a key driver of sexual satisfaction. Just 48% of us said that they usually orgasm. Globally, twice as many men (64%) as women regularly have orgasms.

Maintaining an erection and having enough lubrication to enjoy sex is another important component according to our findings, 34% of women questioned have, at some point in their lives, experienced vaginal dryness, 24% of men have reported difficulties getting an erection and 29% have had problems sustaining one.

Having sex frequently enough also affects satisfaction levels for both sexes, along with having sufficient foreplay. Frequency of sex and sexual satisfaction peaks between the ages of 20 and 34 but it is still important, as people get older: those over 65 are still having sex more than once a week. Frequency of sex differs between countries.

Emotional Drivers

• Feeling close to your partner
• Having an exciting sex life
• Free from sexual dysfunction
• A good first sexual experience

Sexual priorities are changing. We are looking for the softer, more sophisticated side of sex – quality time with our partners, romance and a sense of security within the bedroom.

Feeling close to your partner, feeling loved, respected and secure all impact strongly on our ability to achieve sexual satisfaction.
Mutual respect plays a vital role in a satisfying sex life. Eighty two per cent of us who are sexually satisfied say they feel respected by our partner during sex. Thirty nine per cent are looking for more love and romance, 36% would like more quality time alone with their partner, 31% would like more fun and better communication and intimacy with their partner and 29% a higher sex drive. Thirty seven per cent want to feel less stressed out and tired.

Having an exciting sex life is also important, although this decreases during a relationship. Those who have been in a relationship over 3 years tend to be less inhibited. It's important to try to keep your sex life as exciting as possible. Fifty three per cent of us see the benefits of introducing a little experimentation into our sex lives, through role-play, massage, giving anal sex, sexual fantasies, bondage and vaginal sex.

Our findings suggest that achieving sexual satisfaction starts from your first sexual experience. Thirty seven per cent agree that ‘their sex life has been positively affected by their first sexual experience.' Having a positive first sexual experience is linked to having an effect upon satisfaction levels later in life.

What does all this mean?

We all need to devote more time and energy to our sex lives and adding more romance and fun would definitely help! We all need to try to be less inhibited, being more open and better informed about achieving and giving more pleasure.

We should also consider using products that enhance our sex lives. 2/3rds of people don't use products to enhance their sex lives but half would like to.

How do i get more satisfaction?

As outlined above, the fundemental elements of sexual satisfaction are as follows:

• Physical and Emotional Health
• We all need to have good general health and to be free from stress
• Physiological Issues
• We need to be free from sexual dysfunction
• Physical Chemistry
• Ideally, we need ot have compatible sexual libidos and need to know how to give pleasure to our partner. We have to have a sufficient amount of sex, foreplay and need to be able to achieve orgasm.
• Emotional Relationship
• We need to feel loved, respected, feel at ease and secure in our relationship.
• Excitement
• We need to have enough excitement, variety and fun!

There are many ways that Durex can help you to work towards achieving sexual satisfaction. Let's start with Physical and Emotional Health: while this isn't something we can have a direct impact upon, we fully understand its importance. We'd suggest that you take some time to consider this element and how this may be affecting your personal satisfaction levels. With regards to Physiological Issues we can offer products that help to overcome both male and female sexual dysfunction.

Summary

We hope the findings from our survey have been both interesting and relevant. Hopefully it will give you a better idea of how to achieve ultimate satisfaction. It's a combination of both physical and emotional elements and understanding what works best for you. For most of us this may be injecting some fun and adventure back into our sex lives. What it does prove is that frequency of sex isn't the key driver of sexual satisfaction…but if you're interested in finding out which nations have sex the most click the link below!

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